laughing quietly
Matthew said: Aidan Moffat is a pretty great sex columnist!
(via perpetua)
I can’t entirely agree. While there are some correctly observed negative trends, this seems like a clear case of throwing the baby out with the bathwater. There’s something I can’t get next to about Moffat lumping in all this stuff together as “things you should wait for” (although do go read the whole chunk Matthew quoted and then the whole piece, to check I’m not misrepresenting).
(via stillflyboy)
You’re totally right, fly, and actually I think the whole column sucks. So, people have to learn how to have missionary position sex before they move on to anything else? What the fuck. I guess what I’m getting at is that the column sounds like it’s obviously been written by someone whose sexual repertoire is kind of limited, and who harbours resentment at people who do it in a more interesting way. This purism is an indie boy disease, actually, and what it masks is sheer laziness or fear of being made vulnerable by trying something different. Yeah, dude, sex is not that great anyhow. Love is the key!
And the actual advice — you’re not having sex often, so the relationship is over — that’s crap too. There are a million reasons why sex dies down in a long-term relationship, and quite a few ways of dealing with it (even when the relationship has been kinky from the start.)
Anti-sex sex advice is one of my pet peeves.